I feel you. I can be borerline germaphobic at times, and my hubby couldn't care less. I know that he gets irritated with me when I say "um, would you wash your hands?" after he's taken the trash out, for example. He doesn't care, and really the trash bag probably isn't a health hazard or anything, but I don't want him to touch me unless he's washed his hands, ya know <lol>? So, sometimes, I ask, but I always feel like I'm being a jerk <sigh>.

I guess that I bridge the gap by not *always* asking for things like that (and he probably doesn't *always* need to be asked...it just seems like it to me!). If he leaves his wet towel on the floor, sometimes I just pick it up and put it in the washer, 'cause it's not worth arguing about it. I do sometimes get that "if you loved me...." feeling, but I realize that he really DOES love me; he just doesn't have the same attachment to these cleanliness issues that I have. So, my suggestion is that you try to facilitate for your own needs as much as you can (for instance, putting a hamper right where he usually shucks his work clothes, so it's easy for him to "do the right thing"), but also just being okay with tossing them in there yourself, because you love him.

It's hard living with a person who isn't a neat freak, I think, but I'd probably hate living with another me even more. I mean, sometimes, I don't put the dishes in the dishwasher right away, and I'd hate to be taken to task about it all of the time. I can see the hypocracy in myself there, but I'm glad that nobody else feels the need to point it out : )!